Monday 11 January 2021

WRITE THANK-YOU NOTES!

 

The things that are easy to do are also the things that are not easy to do. The more the pace of our lives speeds up, the greater the impact the simple gestures of life will have on those most deserving of them. And near the very top of my list of simple gestures that have profound consequences is the lost art of writing thank-you notes.

Everyone loves getting mails – It’s a fact of human nature. We all have a deep seated need to feel important. Sure, writing notes takes time. Sure, there might be pressing things on your agenda. But, few acts have the power to build and cement relationships like a heartfelt letter’s of thanks. It shows that you care and that you are considered as human. So today on The World Thank-You day go out and buy a package of blank thank-you cards. You and all the people you deal with – will be glad.


Thursday 7 January 2021

Carry A Goal Card!

 

Montaigne said, “The great and glories master piece of man is to live to the point.” The wisdom of life so succinctly expressed. And yet most of us live our lives like one long air raid drill, filling our days with activities that seem important in the moment but that count little in the overall scheme of lives.

The person who tries to do everything ultimately accomplishes nothing. Having a goal card and coming back to it three or four times a day will keep your mind centered on the things that truly count. It will foster the self-control you need to concentrate only on activities that advance your goals, give you the discipline to say No to all the rest and, in doing so, restore focus to your days. I promise you that if you spend your life focusing on only worthiest pursuits, it is certain to end in complete joy….


Thursday 10 December 2020

LIST YOUR PROBLEMS!

 


“A problem well-stated, is a problem half solved,” said Charles Kettering. There is something very special that happens when you take out a piece of paper and list every single one of your problems on it. It is very much like that peaceful feeling you get after telling your best friend about something that has been troubling you for weeks. A weight somehow falls from your shoulders. You feel lighter, calmer and freer.

While minds can be our best friends, they can also be our worst enemies. If you keep thinking about your problems, pretty soon you will find you think about little less. The mind is strange creature in this regard: the things you want to remember it forgets, all those things you want to forget, it remembers.

To let go of the mental clutter that your problems tend to generate, list all your worries on a piece of paper. If you do so, they will no longer be able to fester in your mind and drain your valuable energy. This simple exercise will also permit you to put your problems into perspective and tackle them in an orderly, well-planned sequence. Among the many successful people who have used this technique are martial arts master Bruce Lee and Winston Churchill, who once said, “It helps to write down half a dozen things which are worrying me. Two of them, say, disappear; about two, nothing can be done, so it’s no use worrying; and two perhaps can be settled.”

 


 


TALK TO YOURSELF!

 

“The words that enlightened the soul are more precious than jewels,” very truly noted by Hazrat Inayat Khan.

Select a phrase that you will train your mind to focus on at different times throughout the day until it begins to dominate your awareness and reshape the person you are. If it is inner peace and calm you seek, the phrase, known as the mantra, might be, “I am so delighted that I’m full of courage and boundless courage.” If it is material property you are after, your saying might be, “I am so grateful that money and opportunity is flowering into my life.”

Repeat your mantras softly under your breath as you walk to work, as you wait in a line or as you wash the dishes to fill otherwise unproductive times of your day with a powerful life improvement forces. Try to say your personal phrase at least two hundred times a day for at least four weeks. The results will be profound as you take one giant step to finding the peace, prosperity and purpose your life requires.


Tuesday 8 December 2020

KEEP A JOURNAL!

Gillie Bolton once said “We can only open our hearts to those we utterly trust, such as the accepting page.” Maintaining a daily journal is one of the best personal growth initiatives you will ever take. Writing your daily experiences along with the message you have drawn from them will make you wiser with each passing day. You will develop self-awareness and will make fewer mistakes. And keeping a journal will help you clarify your intentions so that you remain focused on the things that truly count.

Writing a journal offers you the opportunity to have a regular one-to-one conversation with yourself. If focuses you to do some deep thinking in a world where deep thinking is a past. It will also make you clearer thinker and help you live in a more international and enlightened way. In addition, it provides a central place where you can record your insights on important issues, note key success strategies that have worked for you and commit to all those things you know are important to achieve for a high quality professional, personal and spiritual life. And your personal journal gives you a private place to flex your imagination and define your dreams.

A journal is not a diary. A diary is a place where you record events while a journal is place where you analyze and evaluate the. Keeping a journal encourages you to consider what you do, why you have done it and what you have learnt from all you have done. Writing in a journal promotes personal growth and wisdom by giving you a forum to study, and then leverage your past for greater success in your future. Medical researchers have even found that writing in a private journal for as little time as 15 minutes can improve your health, functioning of your immune system and your overall attitude. Remember, if your life is worth thinking around, it is worth writing about.


 

Monday 7 December 2020

DELIGHTING DECEMBER!

 

Every day is a lifetime in miniature, the supreme art of living is to strive to live each day well. Have you ever pondered over the remarkable fact that thousands of yesterdays have already gone in our lives and thousands of tomorrows are likely to come, but today is the only one – Just One. Hence, the most important day in our lives is TODAY.

What we do today is most important because we are changing a day of life for it. We should seriously consider today as the core substance of life and therefore do something so notable today that it adds substantially to the values of our lives. Truly speaking, “today” is the only component of life that can be organised carefully. We must remember that every day has a credit balance of 1440 minutes or 86400 seconds at its commencement. It is indeed a huge credit balance and we can get the most out of it.

We all have special talents that are just waiting to be engaged in a worthy pursuit. We are all here for some unique purpose, some noble objective that will allow us to manifest our highest human potential while at the same time, add values to the lives around us. Bring more of yourself into your work and focus on the things that you do the best. Stop waiting for other people to make changes that you desire.

Let’s make every minute count.

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2020 is at its end and we all know that it wasn’t a year that we wanted........... Just trying to convert our Depressing December into a Delighting December.


Monday 30 November 2020

CRY OUT LOUD!

Sometimes the best you can do is CRY.......It’s just a normal response to an emotional statepain or grief. But beyond deep sadness there is feeling. It’s the pain that our lips cannot explain. Most people are overwhelmed and don’t even realize it. You may be heading home from work sitting in traffic, and all of a sudden tears begin to fall. In that moment you probably are thinking, what is wrong with me? Why am I crying? I’m not even sad! If you are unaware of the amount of stress your under, stress finds a way to express itself, whether you are expecting it to or not. Stress lives in the body and crying is one way that stress finds a release. So pay attention to the amount of stress you’re under, it may be contributing to your experience of crying for no reason.

Crying is a social expression of overwhelming sadness (and in some cases happiness too but that’s different). There are plenty of psychological and well as sociological constructs related to crying. These beliefs are held by some or all of us. Let me try and explain some of them here. So that we can all understand that crying or not crying is not really the issue, what we believe about crying however, is......

Some of the more positively held beliefs about crying:

·        Crying is about being in sync with emotions

·        Crying expresses an ability to feel emotion

·        Shedding tears means you are more human

·        Crying helps us feel better and we feel less pain

Some negative connotations about shedding tears:

·        Crying, especially publicly, is a sign of weakness

·        Crying is associated with being feminine

·        Crying makes us vulnerable and we feel exposed

·        Crying is a risk, based on the outcome of it

 

Not being able to cry is really not a deficit in the lacrimal glands or that one is dehydrated and there are no tears left. At a psychodynamic level, if a child was reprimanded in childhood for crying in public (usually by a strong and influential figure like a parent), this child would grow with the subconscious but strongly rooted belief that crying is wrong and hence this person would not be able to cry even when grown up. Whether this would be associated with another psychopathology like depression and anxiety, or the person could be suffering from apathy and not feeling emotions; will be determined only after detailed evaluation.

Crying is usual, normal, commonplace and something everybody does, Just that each one has different proportions and frequency of this behavior. After a while crying is not even associated with emotions. It becomes a conditioned response.

The mirror neurons in the human brain are wired to instill an emotional reaction exactly like the one perceived by the eye. Or sense the pain in the the mind. So if one reads about a brutal murder or watches a movie where someone is in pain and crying, we could feel the same emotion and shed dears even though this has nothing to do with us. But everybody’s mirror neurons are different, and so is their ability to cry. A doctor may cry when he or she sees their own child bleed but might not cry when a patient comes into the emergency room for treatment. Psychiatrists feel the pain of their patients but do not cry when their patients cry before them. But when they are hurt they might cry too.

Crying is a very learned behavioral response. Something deep down in the subconscious mind signals the lacrimation (crying) process and that is why we cry. So not crying is not a disorder. I’ve seen several clients come forth with this issue and after very detailed evaluation, it has been enlightening to know and understand reasons, make them aware of it, and well, empower them to cry more easily.

 

 


 

Monday 23 November 2020

IMAGINE A RICHER REALITY!

Albert Camus ones wrote, “In the midst of winter, I found there was within me an invisible summer.” We really don’t discover how powerful and resilient we are until we face some adversity that fills our minds with stress and our hearts with pain. Then we realize that we all have within us the courage and the capacity to handle even the greatest curse life may throw our way.

To improve your life, you must first improve your thinking. Or as the old saying goes, “We see the world, not as it is but as we are.” Our greatest human endowment is the ability to reframe and reinterpret a difficult circumstance in a more enlightened and empowering way. Dogs cannot do this. Cats cannot do this. Monkeys cannot do this. This gift belongs only to us and is part of what makes a human. Blaming our circumstances for the way we feel is nothing more than excusing ourselves. In handling any problem, we must have the courage to assume a measure of responsibilities for whatever situation we are in and then realize that we also have the capacity to use the setback to our advantage. Life’s greatest setbacks always reveal life’s biggest blessings.


 

Monday 16 November 2020

THE STEVE JOBS QUESTION!

 

Lately, I was thinking about the late apple C.E.O. Steve Jobs – his winning ways with the iPod, his transformation of Apple, his achievements with film studio Pixar. He was a bit interesting guy. Brilliant. Driven. Passionate.

Jobs spent some formative time in India. He studied with sages. He visited meditation retreats. He pondered life’s big questions. But, the only question which catched my attention was the one he used to ask himself every time he faced a big decision or choice point in life. “What would I do if this was the last night of my life?” I Loved It....

No one on their deathbeds ever regretted the risk they took. The place of least security is in the security zone, and in the end it doesn’t matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away. To live a life, it’s essential to take calculated risks – Often.

Think about how quickly life is passing and what needs to get done so you feel you played your best game as a human being and then walk out in the world and shine. Most people take the limits of their vision to be the limits of the world, but a few do not..... Join them. The life you see this very moment isn’t the life of you future. You might be viewing things through the eyes of your fear, limitations and false assumptions. Once you clean the stained glass window you will see the world through a whole new set of possibilities. We see the world not as it is, but as we are. Your thinking creates your reality.

If you have failed more than others, there is a good chance that you are living more completely than others. Those who take more chances and dare to be more and do more than others will naturally experience more failures.☺❤


Monday 9 November 2020

THE FIRST BLOG!

                                                      

We live in an age where we have forgotten what life is all about. We can easily put a person on moon, but we have trouble walking across the street to meet a new neighbour. We can fire a missile across the world with a pinpoint accuracy, but we have trouble keeping a date with our parents to go to the market. We can score 99% in our exams, but the score of our relations is still void. We have e-mail, fax, machines and digital phones to stay connected and yet we live in a world where human beings have never been less connected. We have lost touch in our humanity. We have lost sight of things that matter the most.

Hey to all those Busy People out there, I’m Gauri Soni and I’m finally here with my First Blog. So, this is going to be an introduction to what actually you will find here.

We all are very busy in our day to day schedule that we have started behaving more like Machines rather than Humans. We get happy over our big achievements, but we have forgotten to smile over the small things. We must remember that the things that are easy to do are actually the things that are not easy to do. The more the pace of our lives speeds up, the greater the impact of simple gestures of life will have on those most deserving of them. So, I’ll try my best to connect with you guys and make you all go through the inspiring life stories of some of the most stimulating people out there. You will get a Blog here every Monday to make your weekday start in a motivated way, so please show some love to it and your reviews are always welcome. And you can always contact me over my e-mail id.